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When Client / Therapist Relationships Aren’t a Fit

Most therapists want to believe that they are a good fit for their clients. I remember the first time a client fired me as their therapist. I wanted to find some external reason to describe why the client stopped attending, mostly because I didn't want to face the possibility that there was something that they…
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COVID-19 and Social Distancing

During the COVID-19 pandemic, our society has been invited to or legally required to manage a degree of social distancing in order to slow the spread of the virus. While we should comply with legal requests or demands to stay safe, we also need to find ways to continue social interactions. I would like to…
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COVID-19 and Telehealth

During the outbreak of COVID-19, many mental health providers are turning to Telehealth solutions so that they may continue to provide services to individuals, couples, and families. Here are a few things to pay attention to when receiving Telehealth from a mental health provider.Your provider should be using a HIPAA compliant platform when providing you…
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How Change Happens in Couples Therapy

By the time a couple seeks treatment in my office, they have typically made many attempts to change on their own. The attachment in the relationship is weakened, distance increases, and permission has been given to engage in conflict. Couples know that something has to change, but very few know exactly what to expect throughout…
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The Role of Guilt

I often hear clients report that they experience guilt and shame in relation to life experiences or presenting problems. Usually, these terms are referred to in ways that share the same meaning. In this article, I would like to explore how therapists perceive these two terms. One can be a very useful way to explore…
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Divorce Adjustment: Dating

After couples successfully complete the daunting and painful process of divorce, how do they individually know when they are ready to begin dating? How are they suppose to approach finding new relationships when it may have been many years since they have experienced the dating scene? How do you prevent rushing into a relationship just…
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The Usefulness of Therapy During Divorce Mediation

Once a couple makes the decision to terminate their marriage through divorce mediation, they often will disregard the usefulness of therapy. However, the reality is that people usually need therapeutic assistance through the divorce and post-divorce adjustment process. Divorce is painful. It is often dictated by hurt, sadness, regret, blame, failure, and loneliness. Divorce mediators…
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Implementing a Different Approach to Change

By the time potential clients reach out to me in order to initiate therapy, they have already attempted many different approaches to deal with the problems which beset them. When issues continue despite continued efforts to change, therapeutic approaches which make use of a variety of interventions become necessary. When Alice found herself at the…
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Cutting……The Intent Behind the Behavior

Typically, the first thing most of us think about when we hear that someone has deliberately cut themselves is that they are suicidal. In this article, I would like to frankly explore the underlying intent of cutting, what it is attempting to accomplish, and why it seems like such an effective coping strategy in the…
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Experiencing Change Throughout the Therapy Process

I have been privileged to see changes throughout the therapy process in my clients time and time again. Honestly, it's the most rewarding part of being a therapist. In this article, I would like to describe how the therapeutic process of change typically occurs over time for clients, and explore what you might expect as…
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