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Increasing Emotional Safety in Relationships

How often do we find ourselves using defensive mechanisms in order to maintain our own safety. When this approach is applied within family relationships, it becomes counter-intuitive to the expectation which we all hold regarding the family environment being a safe place for us to express who we are as individuals. Being able to shift…
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Sensate Focused Sex Therapy

Sensate Focused Sex Therapy is an established approach which assists a couple to repair their ability to connect in regards to physical intimacy. While there are many ways in which physical intimacy can become disrupted, being willing to work through a therapeutic process can produce a new way to have safe sexual interactions. Often, Sensate…
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Premarital Considerations

I love working with premarital couples. They are usually very engaging, interested in information about marriage, and are hopeful about their relationship. At the same time, this is the easiest time to intervene in order to adjust, correct, or align individuals in relationships prior to marital problems occurring. One perspective about premarital counseling I would…
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The Initial Stage of Addiction: Curiosity

Whenever an addiction develops, it always begins with exposure and curiosity.  While curiosity at this stage seems harmless, it can easily lead to continued exposure and engagement, which can then lead to a potential addiction. Curiosity alone is not dangerous, its often the mechanism which sparks direction, interest, and exploration of many wholesome, worthwhile, and…
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Purposeful Separation

All too often, couples will make the decision to separate out of frustration, pain, and an inability to determine a better solution for their current relational problems.  They know they don't want to remain in conflict, but maybe ending the relationship isn't a decision they are ready to make yet. Although separation may reduce the…
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Family Therapists Deal With Family Pain

By the time a client contacts me to initiate therapy, they have typically suffered an extensive amount of pain.  Although most have attempted to implement a variety of corrective actions prior to seeking therapy, their efforts often fail to resolve the problem.  Virginia Satir, a pioneer of the field of marriage and family therapy, indicates…
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Initiating Therapy: Your 1st Session

Initiating therapy can be quite distressing and anxiety provoking.  Typically, people make many attempts on their own to address their problems prior to seeking out therapy.  Here are a few things you can do in order to manage the first session. 1.  Request contact from a chosen therapist prior to the 1st session.  This can…
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Depression: Feeling Submerged

I grew up in Southern California, and as such, I frequented the beach.  I have many fond memories of playing in the sand, boogie boarding, and surfing at many popular spots along the coast.  However, one day in particular really shook me up. My friend and I were playing in the water all morning, and…
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Anxiety Disorders

  As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I often receive new clients seeking assistance with Anxiety Disorders.  While this is an extremely common disorder, I believe it requires a deliberate approach in order to effectively assist people to reduce their anxious emotions and intrusive thoughts of worry. I would propose a unique view in regards…
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